Confession: I have little to no interest in sports. Most of them require my more underdeveloped skills, but I may save that for another post.
I’ve received dating advice that I thought was odd. It was to start watching sports so I can bond with my significant other. I wasn’t interested in doing so. People in relationships may need their “me” time. My potential partner, who may be into sports, can watch the Super Bowl or playoffs on their time.
Here’s what happens when I get a spark of wonder in a sport on TV:
1. I pepper the sport’s fan with questions about what’s going on.
2. I consciously or subconsciously ask about the team they’re rooting for while the team is losing.
3. I watch the steam come out of their ears while they stare at the screen.
4. I stay quiet for a moment and then ask more questions.
I’ve warned dates about this. They looked shocked like I deliberately drop-kicked a puppy in the stomach in front of them (in case I’ve dated you and we’ve had that conversation: yes, yes you did look at me like that). DISCLAIMER: I love puppies, I wouldn’t do that.
Dates, buddies, coworkers, and business contacts have asked me which sports team I was rooting for. I get awkward because I enjoy engaging dialogue but now have nothing to contribute. Then I allow the awkward silence to seep in between us.
I really wish I could be the “ideal woman”- never mind, I lied. I envision that ideal womxn as someone who is down to earth, appealing to the male gaze, athletic, a sports fanatic, gets to places on time, and thriving in corporate America. I’ve met versions of this womxn, and they’re so amazing! I believe what makes us all special is our differences. I get the concept of sacrificing a bit to appease your partner (friend, family, the person who has the power to promote/hire you), that’s why I tolerate bowling…I hate bowling… I’m sick of it.
So my friends, coworkers, potential partners, and clients, if you want to watch sports in peace, please feel free to kindly ask me to go to the store and get you an item that is extremely hard to find. Or nicely bribe me with student loan money and a doughnut from Knead Doughnuts to be quiet.
#dating #sports #adulting #awkward
Kou T. Nyan 
This made me laugh because it’s so me!! The only way I’ll watch sports is if you promise me my favorite snacks! Lol
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Funny. You are not alone in your disinterest in most sports. It would be great if others could accept the disinterest and get over it.
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This is one of the best reads ever! What I love the most about it is how unapologetic you are about your likes and dislikes.
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Hey girl! Ronique here. I’m the same way. In a way, some think it’s cute that I’m so sports clueless 😅 But yeah, if the guy is worth it, I’ll try to ask questions and engage with the game since it’s a passion of his. Just like I’d want him to do the same for my interests: “Let’s talk blogging baby!”
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