Challenge accepted.
Remember, the work starts long before the Ask. But here are three steps of how you can successfully “Ask for help without making yourself feel like a failure because you asked…type thing.”
1. Remember that you’re a BAWSE and accept that while being humble.
You don’t know everything, and neither does the person you want help from. Consider that one day they or someone else will need your help with something. Also, remember the things you’re good at. Perhaps before the Ask write a list of your strengths and affirmations. Say them to yourself and thank God.
2. Ask: Identify your specific need(s) and how that person can help.
What do you need help in and why? How can this person help and why did you ask them? Please, consider that seeking help is an investment in yourself, your project and the people around you. You’re bettering the world by bettering yourself. Asking for help from someone could be a way to fill their cup. Imagine that extremely organized buddy of yours feels like they completely failed and you asking for their help might encourage them to remember that they’re not a failure.
3. Show gratitude…without bringing yourself down
Compliment the person on their skill before and/or after the Ask. Don’t forget to tell them “thank you,” they didn’t have to help you at all or take the time to listen to your concerns. However, DO NOT offer “thank yous” that comes with “I’m so glad you helped me because I suck as a human being.” Trust me, I’ve done it more times than I can count and it doesn’t feel good.
Please remember that YOU are FANTASTIC and none of us are perfect. This is ongoing work to remember this, but it’s worth it when you do.
And if that person tries to make YOU feel like a failure. Please take the advice of my friend in my head, DJ Hustlenomics:
Hope this helps, Sis and Folx! ‘Til next time!
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Kou T. Nyan 